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It is rather irritating when I ask a simple question in a community and people automatically assume that I'm being some retarded, paranoid idiot.

I've been in nonfluffypagans for quite some time now, despite the fact that I've been more than a bit quiet lately, and I never noticed a specific moderator's name on the line-up. I've also don't remember seeing them making a single post or comment before. Until the other day, when they posted an entry regarding the community. I thought to myself, "hmmm. Never seen that name before. I wonder if one of the mods accidentially posted under the wrong name?" So I asked them which mod they were.

It's really that fucking simple.

One member begins replying to me, posting in an enormously condescending (in my opinion) manner about where I might find the names on the profile page and explaining that this is a new mod (despite the fact that they are indeed wrong about this being a new mod, apparently). And then one of the moderators themselves chimes in, with assumptions about my being paranoid of an "imposter" and other such blithering.

It's agitating. And I haven't had any caffiene yet this morning, so I'm even more on edge. I don't like being patronized is basically what this comes down to. And generally, when one starts a sentence out with "I don't mean to be rude, but...", it's generally an incredibly rude thing about to slide right out of their mouth.

I have a rather knee-jerk reaction when people start sentences out using that phrase, or any of its slack-jawed cousins. I used to work with a woman who used it constantly. "I don't mean to offend anybody, but..." and the most horribly asinine and offensive things would spew forth. The Engineer's brother has used it, much to the same result. More people then I wish to recount here. It makes me insane the second I see it, though and I automatically become irritated, no matter what the follow-up portion of the statement is. It could be: "I don't mean to be rude, Tara, but here's a thousand dollars." and I will probably be halfway into throwing a brick at the person's skull before I realize what's actually happening. It's a failing of mine, I recognize that.

I've been keeping quiet on LJ lately, not out of any sort of disgruntlement with anyone, but because I just don't have the energy to devote to journalling lately. Or to keeping up with community posts. I maintain the community I'm a moderator on, keep an eye on it and make sure nothing is blowing up when I've got my head turned. But, I don't have the piss and vinegar right now to involve myself in anything heavier. There's a thread right now on NFP that I dearly wanted to throw myself into because I think the people involved are blowing smoke up everyone's asses (including their own). I even wrote a comment. Left it up on my work computer for a couple of hours while I attended to office craziness, then deleted it later because I didn't want to deal with any resulting fall-out.

My journal is completely public, with the exception of a few locked-down entries here and there. They're rare, though. Therefore, this entry is going to also be public. I assume that there is a chance the people I've spoken of will see this entry and may even comment. So be it. But, I'm not looking for a fight or a debate and I won't suffer one in my private journal, either. As always, people are free to comment here, but if I get poked with a sharp stick, I'm going to ignore it like nothing has ever been ignored before.

Working sixty hour weeks generally does that to a person. :/